Atelophobia

Recently,  I came across this term through a friend of mine who happens to be going through this problem for a long time now.  I'd never heard this word so went on to do my research. As it turns out,  "Atelophobia is the fear of imperfections.  A person suffering from Atelophobia thinks that every action he does is error prone." Sounds strange ain't it.  But as a matter of fact,  this condition does exist and is pretty common.

All of us often feel that whatever we do is not up to the mark or that we are no good.  There is a desire in us that our surrounding people should  have a liking towards us. We often wonder  what the other people would think about us etc etc. For any other individual, these are the thoughts that come and go but can you imagine an unending chain of such thoughts. 

How would life be when whatever you do - good or bad, comes with a negative anxiousness that it is not right? What would you do if every time you meet someone, all you can think about is whether they'd like you or not despite your personal emotions about them? To me, even the thought of such constant mental pressure sounds terrifying and yet there are many among us who go through this trouble day and night and have been living with it for God knows how long..

The cause of Atelophobia is most often the situations and environment during childhood.  Children who have a difficult childhood or face some kind of not so pleasant atmosphere at home in their growing years often tend to lack an inner self confidence. Apart from that, a routine comparison of a child's performance with that of others can also lead to an inferiority complex which can have a permanent impact on their minds and lives.

Those who have Atelophobia usually have a tough time believing in themselves or that what they are doing is really good. They are in a constant need of approval and sometimes even that doesn't work. These friends of ours have a tough time expressing their deep feelings which further makes things restricted for them. A majority of them are not even able to discuss their issues or sometime don't understand them themselves for that matter because even if they say it, the reply is almost always going to be something like, "ye sirf tumhara bahaana hai, aisa kuchh nahi hota. (This is just your excuse, there's nothing like this)"

Relax guys! It's OK. I know things are not as smooth as they should be but what's a journey without some bumps. If you are afraid of not being good enough trust me, it is not so. You are the best of you and not a single person on Earth can be as good as you are. And making mistakes is just an essential part of the experience since that's what we can laugh at in the future. Try to talk things out with a confidant and let yourself be free of the burdens. If anyone out there is aware of a friend or an acquaintance who goes through such turmoil please be appreciative of whatever they do. DON'T show pity. Just be genuine and supportive. Last but most importantly, a sincere request to all current as well as future parents out there, "don't manufacture, Nurture". Let your children build a self confidence and not just become a competitive machine.

Apne gham se khelta hai, dard kitne jhelta hai.
Sochta tu aur kuchh hai, aur kuchh tu bolta hai.
Apne dil ko tu manale, beech ka parda utha le .
Aazma le