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Affection vs Infatuation

If you were asked to define your adolescent years in one word, what would that word be? Mess? Confusion? Fun? Maturity? I'm sure, everyone would have a different and really interesting answer for this one. For me, my teenage years can be termed as Kalol(meaning joke).  Those years are nothing less than a full speed roller coaster. The emotional changes, the physical developments all are a bombshell. And for some, these years are the time to fall in love and make relationships. But is it actually love? Let's see-

It all happens like one day you see a beautiful girl or a smart guy somewhere and instantly, you are in love (Come on!) From that moment on, nothing or no one else matters to you anymore except that one person. You ignore your studies, your friends and even your family just to spend time messaging or talking to that person. Then one fine day, you both have a fight over a petty issue and you guys break up (Seriously?) Now you start behaving as if the world has come to an end. Again you start neglecting everyone and everything just to dwell on your self imposed grief. You stay upset for a few days until you spot another cute guy/girl and then everything goes on a repeat mode.

Now my purpose of writing all this is to ask my readers- Is all this worth it? Is that one small relationship worth the cost of your education, your beautiful friends and your adoring parents? I know many of you would say that I don't know what love is or what having a boyfriend/girlfriend means. Okay fine. I might not know that. But do you know what is infatuation? Do you know the clear difference between being infatuated towards someone and having true affection for them? These two are surely interlinked but are at the same time, two different things.

Infatuation is what you have when you see someone whose smart and beautiful and you feel you are in love with them. Infatuation can be towards our teachers, our friends, our favorite celebrities or even our love-at-first-sight BFs/GFs. True affection or love is something much more intense and deeper than all this. That is a feeling in which you simply not bothered just about the appearance or sense of humour but the complete personality of that one person and when you accept them with all their mistakes. What I personally feel is that a person is not mature enough to differentiate between this affection-infatuation confusion during the teenage years.

It is rightly said that every coin has two side. Same goes here. There are people who when in a relationship are actually in a commitment. They are a kind of support system for each other. There are a lot many situations where it is not a case of infatuation but true affections. I here am not saying that having a bf/gf is something wrong but that the negative affects it has on some people's lives is something not acceptable. Every relation is a part of your life but its end cannot be treated as the end of your life.

In the end all I would like to say is that teenage years are for us to enjoy ourselves, to make mistakes and to learn from them and at the same time to work towards our goals. Make as many friends as you can, have loads of fun, maybe even fall in love. But be careful enough to not let your love make you fall down. You'll meet a lot of people during the journey of your life. You just need to carefully choose which ones to walk with.

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